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Post by Maywalk on Sun Jul 03, 2011 2:03 am

I kept in touch with the woman who I will call Madge and the three children. The children very often came round to me for a drink or something to eat.
The 12 year old girl who I will call Jilly came everyday after school and I gradually taught her to knit and read patterns.
The two boys were a different kettle of fish because Jilly’s blood brother could tell the biggest lies while looking you straight in the eye with his big blue eyes. I found out more about his wily ways later.

Jilly’s stepbrother ( the one who had his head trapped ) I found out was a head banger.
He was always banging his head against the headboard on his bed and caused quite a bit of mayhem at times. I suppose in todays society he would be regarded as having Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder. ADHD as it is known nowadays.
Yes he was a bit of a handful but I used to keep him amused when he came to see me by giving him a very large box of buttons that my mother had given me and a ball of wool. I would ask him to find all the same buttons and thread them on different lengths of wool. This kept his attention from wandering.
I made sure that they were off the strands by the next time he came so that he still had plenty to go at.
Crafty on my part I suppose but as long as it kept him amused that was all that mattered.

Madge used to come round but usually on the cadge for something such as sugar or money to get cigarettes. She usually got short shrift from me by telling her I had used my sugar ration up and I had no money to give her.
She topped it all one day though when she came round and asked me if I had any new knickers because she was going to a wedding. My mind boggled as I gave her my last pair of new ones just to get rid of her.
I had the children that day while she went to the family do with Jilly’s father.
NO children were invited.
I had known this family for about six months when my hubby came home and said that he had been offered a house that belonged to the firm he worked for.

I was over the moon because I would have my own front and back door and as much as I had enjoyed living at “Kerry’s” I still wanted a place of my own.


When I told Jilly she sobbed her heart out because she did not want me to leave her.
I was taking the place of a real mother even though I was only nearly 22 years old myself.
Having said that somewhere out in that big wide world her real mother was still alive and had remarried from what I could make out.
I told Jilly she could come for weekends if her stepmother would let her because the house we were moving to had three bedrooms.
This consoled her and she was quite happy to help me pack my things.



We had been in the house for roughly 8 months when one day there was a knock on the door and who should be standing there but Madge and the three children.
Fortunately Cliff had worked the early shift so he too was at home when this happened.

Madge said she had come to ask me if I would look after the children for a while because she was pregnant and was getting a new house sorted out for them through the council.
One that would be on the outskirts of Loughborough so that the children could go to school at Loughborough.
Cliff and I said that we would on the understanding that something was paid for their keep. She passed over the childrens ration books, because we were still on rations at that time, with promises that we would get something each week.
When Madge went I was under the impression that she was sending the children’s clothes over .
How naïve could I have been?

She went out the door and it was nearly ten months later when I saw her again.

She had dumped the children on me without even a change of clothes. It’s a good job I had a decent next door neighbour who passed some of her two boys outgrown clothing to me for the lads.
Jilly had to make do with some of my stuff until I got sorted out.

It was quite a dilemma and I could have contacted the police BUT the last thing I wanted was for Social services to put the children in a home.
I had been in one myself for seven years and I certainly did not want them to be subjected to the cruelty that I went through when I was little.

I sorted out the bedrooms and took my lads cot back into our bedroom so that the two lads could sleep in the other double bed. I did not like putting my sons cot back in my room because he was about 16 months old then but it was the only way I could fit everyone in.
I used to get up in the middle of the night to get my lad out to go to the toilet and Jilly’s stepbrother because I had caught him the first night he stopped with us, just about ready to water the flowers on the ruddy wall paper that we had not long put on the walls in that bedroom.
He was still asleep so I could not scold him.
It used to be awful to hear him banging his head against the head board before he finally went to sleep.
We padded it well with two big bolsters so that he woud not hurt himself. It was quite a gruelling time .


I contacted the firm where Jilly’s father worked and told the boss to tell him to come round and see me when he got back from his long distance driving job.

He finally made an appearance three weeks after I had first taken the children in and told me his wife was in Liverpool but he would be calling each week with some money to keep the children.
There were NO family allowances then to help out with clothes and shoes.
That did not come into force until 1956.

I never saw Jilly’s father again until just before Jilly left school at 14.

Yes I was taken for a ride but I would not have had it any other way.

When the children first came to me Jilly’s brother told folks that I would not let him go out to play.
It made me sound like an ogress but the truth of the matter was as he only had one set of everything to wear I had to wash and dry them every night so that they would be ready for the next morning.
That was why I could not let him go out to play until I got him some more. He could tell such convincing lies I even started to doubt myself at times.

My next door neighbour told me about Providence Cheques which meant borrowing about £50 and paying it back at 5 shillings a week.
Both Cliff and myself were against doing this because we had never had any thing on the weekly before.
Unfortunately it was a case of needs must to get the children school uniform once I had got them settled into schools.
£50 may not sound much in todays coinage but it went a heck of a long way years ago and 5 shillings was quite a slice out of a man’s weekly wage then.

We did not live as well as I would have liked us to but we survived.

After ten months of struggling to keep the children on my husbands wage Jilly’s father turned up and said that they now had a house and the children could go back there to live.
Jilly was just coming up to 14 years of age when she would be leaving school and sent to get a job.
It was a convenient time for them to want the children back when extra money would be taken in.

When the children finally left I had been promised a cheque to be forthcoming from her father for the months I kept them.
It never did materialise and I would not lower myself to ask for it.

I lost touch with the stepmother and Jilly's father but Jilly always came back to see me.
I don’t know what happened to the two lads after they grew up. We never saw them again after they went back to their new home.

Jilly found her true mother over the years and she brought her to meet me. She thanked me for what I had done for her two children.
I never asked what had happened between Jilly’s real mother and her father.
I only know that NOTHING on this earth would have parted me from my child/children.

Jilly is now a grandmother herself but she always comes to see us when she comes to visit her husband’s family because she and her husband now live on the Shetland Isles.

They are always asking Cliff and myself to go and stay with them for a month at a time but health and age are now against us.
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Post by Tan on Sun Jul 03, 2011 2:45 am

You really gave your all for these children that needed a lot of love and stability, it must have been so hard for you both as through choice though you were instantly in full responsiblilty of children that at your age were not really ready for, meaning everyone 'grows' with their own children, see each stage through, but there at such a young age yourself and your hubby took on such a little family there and gave them your all, no one in the world could not praise you for doing that, no way did I feel anywhere reading this that you did it for praise or money, you did it because you cared so very much about the well-being of these children and save them from a life in care, like you yourself sadly had to live through for those 7 years.
Living then was so hard, but obviously that was how the generation was, all in the same boat and nothing really to compare with like say we have today, we have it relatively easy now in comparison, and yet many do still struggle.
It's so lovely that you get to see Jilly, shame about not knowing what happened to the boys, out of your hands of course, but it would be lovely I'm sure for you to hear how they are, but one thing I am so sure of is that in their lives, all three, carry the love and kindness with them in their memories, you made a difference for sure Maywalk, both of you did..

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Post by Maywalk on Sun Jul 03, 2011 3:06 am

Many thanks Tanooma.
No we didnt do it for money. I just did NOT want the children ending up in a home.
Its a good job I had such an understanding hubby because he agreed with me.
I am a VERY lucky lady to have such a good husband. Not many men would have wanted to take on three children out of the blue.
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Post by Tan on Sun Jul 03, 2011 3:11 am

Yes I think that too and your hubby would have had to work harder too to get that bit more money, he was a star just as much as you were, and such a loving and giving couple..
Wishing you both all the love and happiness that the world can bring to you, very well deserved for sure.

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Post by Maywalk on Sun Jul 03, 2011 3:40 am

Aw Bless You.
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Post by Joelle on Sun Jul 03, 2011 4:41 am

Two caring compassionate people you and your husband Maisie,to do what you did for those children was wonderful and I'm sure you gave them a great start in life that they would not have had in a home. Some people in this life are givers and others are takers, Madge was deplorable to abandon her children like that, a taker indeed, such shame that you had no contact from the boys after they went back to live with their 'mother and father' but at least Jilly kept in touch with you and hopefully appreciated all your love and kindness that you both gave to her. As Tan says you are both stars and deserve all the happiness in the world.
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Post by Maywalk on Sun Jul 03, 2011 5:19 am

Thanks Joelle.
I told the tale more or less for folks to realise HOW different things are now to what it was then.
I would have thought I was a millionairess if I had had family allowance for them. Never mind we managed and we would do it all over again if we had to.


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Post by Tan on Sun Jul 03, 2011 5:26 am

And now there are also 'Child' Tax Credits and Working Tax Credits'

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Post by Maywalk on Sun Jul 03, 2011 6:15 am

Yes and everything is still in a b***s up Tanooma. emoticon-00121-angry
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Post by Tan on Sun Jul 03, 2011 6:20 am

Oo, yep, I will second that for sure..

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Post by Maywalk on Sun Jul 03, 2011 12:14 pm

It certainly makes one wonder where things will end up. Umm

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Post by Tan on Sun Jul 03, 2011 12:19 pm

Yes it does, such a huge turnaround needs to happen and by the law too, wonder who in their big seats will be brave enough to make a stand and say 'Enough is Enough'..

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Post by Maywalk on Sun Jul 03, 2011 1:39 pm

Well I dont think it will be in my lifetime Tanooma and I hope and pray that it doesn't take any more wars to get things straightened out. Sad
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Post by Tan on Sun Jul 03, 2011 1:50 pm

So many times like I'm sure many do, I look around and read of all the unrest and how so much has changed, that I wonder just what it will take to straighten so much out..
Too many 'Do-Gooders' in the world, all siding with the ones that cause so much, just never ending too, and to think that those very people where once sat cooing in a pram all dewy eyed, yet how they have turned out, and brought much shame on their families in the process as I don't believe that many parents brought them up to be like they turned out..

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